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Healthy Self-Esteem versus Over Confidence

Krystalina Soash -- One can take you places; the other can take you down. So how do you differentiate between healthy self-esteem and over confidence?

Have you been practicing some new positive self esteem statements or behaviors lately?

Be advised that others are watching you. You may have been struggling with your self esteem for years and years, and when you start practicing some empowering statements or behaviors someone might say to you, wait a minute, now you're being over confident.

So right away that prompts you to ask, so what's the difference?

Healthy Self-Esteem:

-- You are satisfied with yourself
-- You don't judge yourself harshly
-- You can laugh at your own silly mistakes
-- You are resourceful
-- You take responsibility for your own actions

Over Confident:

-- You don't care what others think
-- You will do it your way
-- You blame others for your mistakes
-- You feel you don't need anyone for anything
-- You are overbearing

The difference is a fine line that separates having a healthy self esteem and being over confident. Having a healthy self esteem is defined as having confidence in your own merit as an individual person and not relying on outside approval for your overall self worth. That's a tall order for someone struggling with low self esteem issues.

Over confidence on the other hand, is defined as going over your quota in your confidence level, over stretching your merit unrealistically to an exaggerated confidence point.

As you begin to practice your new empowering statements and behaviors to raise your self esteem, go through this checklist and ask on which list are you? This is but a short list to help you identify the difference between having a healthy self esteem and being over confident.

Krystalina Soash is a freelance writer specializing in article writing in the self-improvement field. You may visit her at

© 2009 Krystalina Soash

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