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Career Planning and Life Lessons You Will Learn After Failing

Cecile Peterkin -- Like it or not, failure is a part of life and a necessary stepping stone to personal development and success. Whether in school, job searching, at work, or in life, here's what you need to take away anytime you fall short of your goals.

If there's one thing all of us should learn from a young age, it would be that failing is actually overrated. For many people, fear of failure is a big problem and can even be life changing. But you need not be like them. You just have to understand that failure is a vital part of your development as a person. In fact, you need to go through a challenging experience in order to reach your goals in life.

Here are the lessons to learn from every failure that will enable you to enjoy and succeed in life:

Failing is not always a bad thing.

You should understand that failing isn't really a bad thing. Of course, it can hurt, but it's always up to you to decide how long you will let it affect you. Having the right mindset is vital for overcoming failure. Getting something you don't deserve is less beneficial to you compared to failing even when you've given your best in what you do.

Admit that you got it wrong.

One of the hardest things to do is admit that you made a mistake that led to your failure. You can't keep blaming other people for the things you did not achieve. By denying your faults or shortcomings, you are not allowing yourself to move on and learn from your failure.

It's you who needs to change, and not the world.

Things around you happen with or without you doing anything about it. When you fail, it must be because there was something necessary that you did not do, or there was something unnecessary that you did. If you want to succeed, you have to know what it is you're doing wrong, and you need to make an effort to change yourself and how you go about things.

Keep chasing your dream.

Yes, failure can be frustrating, especially if it keeps on happening to you. Thus, you should not allow yourself to get used to the idea of failure. Instead, use failure as your stepping stone for you to achieve your ambitions. Use it as an inspiration to chase after whatever it is that you desire most in your life and in your career.

No single person knows everything.

There are people who claim they know and understand everything, but there is definitely not one person in the world who is an expert at everything. If you failed at something, it could just mean that you are not an expert at that. You are not a genius, so you can't expect yourself to be successful at everything that you do.

Time is gold.

If you want to make a mark in this world, you have to do something to make it happen. Never think that your dreams will always be there to wait for you. Grab every opportunity to get closer to your dreams and waste no time to do what you have to do.

Enjoy the journey!

The worst thing you can do in your life is to limit yourself. No matter what you are going through, make sure that you are enjoying it. Stop being afraid of failures because failing is what makes success sweeter, both in your personal life and in your career planning.

Cecile Peterkin is a certified career and retirement coach, and a registered member of the Career Professionals of Canada and the International Coach Federation. She is also the Founder and Senior Career Strategist at Cosmic Coaching Center, provider of career and life management services for middle managers and mid-career professionals across Canada, United States and Europe.

© 2017 Cecile Peterkin

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